Stress & Anger Management

Stress and Anger Management

It's no secret that Middle School can foster some intense emotions within students. Counselors routinely meet with students who are having trouble managing their anger or their stress level. All PPS staff at the Middle School are trained and adept at working with these students in their time of need. We will work diligently with the student to identify stressors and triggers, and develop, in partnership, strategies for success. Sometimes these issues are best dealt with in a one-on-one setting, and sometimes students can benefit in learning from each other in a group setting. We have the capabilities to provide either environment, depending on the student and the situation. We also encourage families to reach out for help if they are experiencing trouble managing these emotions with their students at home. Together, as partners there is no problem we can't work through!

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How Full is your Glass of Water?

A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, "How heavy is this glass of water?" Audience members called out a range of different weights, to which the lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter; it depends on how long you try to hold it."

"If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."
He continued, "and that's the way it is with stress and anger management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."
"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for awhile and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden."
Allow yourself permission to RELAX. Then, when your mind and body are well rested, you'll be better equipped to carry on. Life is short, enjoy it!

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Learn to Control your Stress and Anger with these 4 steps!

Step 1: Stop and Keep Calm

Calm your body down by taking some deep breaths

Pause and count slowly to three before responding.

Utilize your cool-down strategies.

Use positive self-talk!

Positive Self-talk:

"I'm going to keep my cool!"

"I CAN control my temper!"

"I'm in control of my emotions!"

"I don't want to make a big scene!"

"I'm not going to let this get to me!"

"It's not worth it!"

"I don't need to prove myself!"

"I'm better than this!"

"I won't give someone power over me!"

"Ain't nobody gonna ruin my day!"

Step 2: THINK

Think about what will happen if you lose your temper.

Remember, you have a choice! You can choose to:
... stay and try to solve the conflict.
... walk away from the situation.
... ignore it all together.

Ask Yourself:
"What am I really angry about?"
"Is this really such a big deal?"
"Did the person mean to anger me?"
"What will happen if I lose my temper?"
"Who is my audience?"
"What do I really want out of this?"
"Is it really worth a confrontation?"

Step 3: Express Yourself

Own your feelings and acknowledge your anger.
Talk rationally to the person you're mad at.
Talk to a trusted friend, parent, teacher, or counselor.
Journal how you're feeling.
Use artistic expression.
Let it out: Find a private place to yell or cry.
Use your "I Messages"

"I Messages"
"I feel... (state your feeling)...
...when you (state the action the other person is engaging in)...
...because it (state why it's causing you to feel this way)...
...and I would like (state what you would like to see happen)".

Step 4: Feel Good Again

Release any remaining negative feelings.
Try to forgive the person who made you angry.
Forgive yourself if you weren't proud about how you acted.
Think about how you might handle yourself the next time you get angry.
Give yourself praise for the things you do well.
Stop thinking about what made you angry.
Let it Go!

Keep Calm and Carry On (2017)

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